My Old Man: Jon is 7 years older than me. I LOVE IT! I don't know why, something about your man being older is attractive. Maybe its because it keeps me feeling young! ;-) It is funny to think about the age gap we would have had if we had known each other our entire lives. I was only 11 when he graduated from high school. Jail bait!
Jon's Age Lizzy's Age
8 yrs 1 yrs
15 yrs 8 yrs
20 yrs 13 yrs
25 yrs 18 yrs
When we met, I had just turned 20 and he was about to turn 27.
Family Approval. When Jon and I first started talking, and he started talking marriage to his family, I got a call from his sister-in-law, Jen. Jen and her husband had met online as well, so she knew what we were going through and had a few "questions" for us. At the time, I didn't think any of those "issues" she was talking about would be a big deal, let alone even occur...now it cracks me up how valid all of those questions were and how many of them actually are a part of our daily lives. These were just some of the questions she asked...
Question:
- "What are you going to do if he leaves his socks lying around?"
- "What if he doesn't shower"
- "What if he doesn't shave"
- "He has ALOT of computer stuff, be ready to have a computer room instead of a nursery."
Result Now:
- Well for one, when it happens, we are both guilty, but in general we don't wear socks, FLIP FLOPS!
- Yes, He does shower, Thank The Lord
- We compromised, the Goatee instead of the caveman beard
- This one is funny, because my idea of a lot and his idea of a lot was drastically different. When things started getting shipped to our new apartment from Iraq, I realized what I had gotten myself into. He sent home trunk after trunk, one of which weighed 200lbs. NO JOKE! And when I finally thought nothing else could possibly be added to his supply of computer stuff...we had to get the rest out of his mom's basement, (which was a suburban full) and some from a friend that had been storing it for him while he was deployed (that one was only a car load) and I say Only! HA!....Now, its just life, I married a software engineer, so this is what I get. Luckily he is more than willing to get rid of stuff he won't ever use, he has gone through his stash a few times since we have gotten married and donated a lot of it. Now, it is all nicely organized! And in case you are wondering, yes we have a nursery room, Jon got moved to the living room and garage.
There were more questions, I just can't remember them.
Getting to know Jon: My family was also eager to hear about this mysterious guy I met online. I first told my parents about him while eating at O'Charlie's for my dad's birthday. It was the day after Jon and I first emailed. I tried to hint to them how serious I was about him already, but it was a couple more weeks till they really caught on. At first it was just a few that knew our plans, but before I knew it, everyone in the family knew. We just couldn't keep it a secret. We wanted to get married. The big deal breaker was my dad. Jon and I originally were going to wait to get married till the fall when he was home for good and we had some time together first...but we just didn't want to wait that long. In our minds and hearts there was no point in putting off the inevitable. I told Jon it was up to my dad, if dad said it was okay, then I would marry him in June. I couldn't believe it when my dad said yes. My dad is a great judge of character when it comes to guys my sister and I date...and the fact that he gave us his blessing was huge.
I met his family before I even met him. I can't remember exactly when this occurred, but it was sometime after the phone call from Jen. Jon really wanted me to meet his family, which was another huge amount of brownie points for him. Family is extremely important to me, and the fact that we had that in common meant the world. Some of my friends were still a little hung up on the idea that he could be a psycho and this could be a cruel joke...lol...but what psycho would want you to meet his family? So I knew it was a good thing.
I first met Jen and Aaron and Little Leo. We met at Edinburgh outlet mall and then went to cracker barrel. I remember Aaron's first response was, "you are taller than I imagined." Lol, yup, I am tall...but what he didn't know, was I was thinking the same thing about him. I kept trying to imagine how tall Jon was and him and Aaron are about the same height. I was glad to know Jon would be a good deal taller than me. Leo was adorable, quiet, but as cute as can be. I was definitely a lot quieter that night than I usually am, but it was fun meeting some of Jon's family. My first impression of Jen was I can really see us being close friends. Something just clicked and there was that instant comfort level. Now 3 years later we talk daily and I love it!
Then I met Jon's Mom, his sister Michele, and his niece Sara. Let me just say, I fell in love with sara the minute I saw her. She was a handful but so fun. We all met at a craft show and spent the day together. Jon's mom gave me a little wallet sized picture album of pictures of Jon. From newborn up to current. I still love it! It was great seeing Jon and how much he had changed over the years.
The first impression of his family was they were all people I could get along with and consider family as well. I didn't feel that awkward distance that sometimes you have with in-laws.
I'm sure there will be more to come in the future. But right now, I'm drawing a blank on the exciting facts. What can I say, sometimes "baby brain" hits hard. :) Ha!
Hope you have enjoyed our crazy love story. If you didn't read part 1, be sure to.
The first impression of his family was they were all people I could get along with and consider family as well. I didn't feel that awkward distance that sometimes you have with in-laws.
I'm sure there will be more to come in the future. But right now, I'm drawing a blank on the exciting facts. What can I say, sometimes "baby brain" hits hard. :) Ha!
Hope you have enjoyed our crazy love story. If you didn't read part 1, be sure to.
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